Negativity affects your life on every level. It has the power to ruin relationships, decrease work performance, and increase stress levels. The good news is that you can fight it by changing your mindset.
Not sure where to start? Check out these smart, effective ways to protect yourself from negativity:
Don’t Take It Personally
Most people act in a certain way based on their previous experiences and current circumstances. Perhaps someone took credit for your colleague’s work in the past, so now he doesn’t trust his team anymore. That doesn’t mean he has something against you. He simply doesn’t trust people in general.
Stop taking things personally. If someone is misjudging you, prove to them that they are wrong. Be kind and authentic rather than stressing over it. Constructive feedback is crucial for improvement and the path toward excellence. Accept it graciously and then see what positive changes you can make personally to improve circumstances.
No matter how hard you try, you’ll never be able to please everyone. On the contrary – people will always come up with new demands and take advantage of your kindness. That can undermine your self-esteem and keep you from focusing on your priorities.
Learn to say No and set clear boundaries. If someone reacts negatively or tries to undermine you, move on. That person isn’t worth your time or attention.
A true friend or understanding colleague will understand that you have other things to do and that you’re not available around the clock. If people truly respect you, they will respect your time.
Adopt a Positive Mindset
Be grateful for what you have and then seek ways to achieve more. Start a gratitude journal and write a few things every day. That will reinforce positive thinking patterns and reduce negativity.
Your positive attitude will also inspire others and strengthen your relationships. The more you focus on the good in your life, the more opportunities will arise. Our thoughts become our reality; so start sowing some positive seeds in there.
Find Solutions, Not Problems
Most people tend to focus on the problems they are facing instead of actively seeking solutions. That results in feelings of guilt and dissatisfaction.
Whenever you have a problem, take the steps needed to solve it. The longer you wait, the more obstacles you’ll face along the way.
Stay away from people who make a drama out of everything. They’re only wasting your time and energy. Their negativity will affect you sooner or later.
Surround yourself with positivity. Build relationships with people who encourage and support you.
We tend to model or emulate the five people we hang around a majority of the time. Choose who you want to be around carefully.
Remember that people don’t care that much about what you say or do. Focus on whatever makes YOU happy and stop feeding negativity. It’s easy enough to become embroiled in someone else’s opinions or mindset; so the best thing is to practice avoidance.
Once you take these simple steps, you will be happier, feel better in your environment and see new opportunities that you would have otherwise missed.
Health & Fitness Trainer, Wellness & NLP Mind Coach - Rosemary Dugan Wellness
I'm a Women's Health Wellness and Mindset Coach and Trainer helping busy women 35 and over regain control of their health, fitness, eating patterns, negative mindset, negative body image issues, lack of self worth and self esteem. I coach women in personal and professional aspects for better outcomes in life through neuroscience.
I've been in health and fitness for 20 years, lecturing in H & F for 15 years. I'm a workshop facilitator and trainer, author, coach and mentor working holistically with clients to help support their mental, physical and emotional health.